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Saturday, June 28, 2014

one more time around

I'm giving myself one more cycle. Then I'm calling it quits. 
No one warns you how hard trying to conceive is, especially your first.
I'm actually envious of people who have had miscarriages because at least they know they CAN get pregnant.
As of now I don't believe I can. 
Its been a year and a half for us, which is a really long time for me to try for something.
Many people might think I'm giving up too soon but I can't handle the emotional breakdowns every month. 
Month after Month. 
It is devastating for me. I cry often because I feel like I'll never know what its like to have my own child.

There was this instance that happened to me on Friday.. I'm at work in the checkout line and this woman is buying a few things with her two kids. The kids were maybe around 7 and 10? They kept bringing things to the counter, as kids do, and kept asking the mom if they could buy something. They were apparently stressing out the mom and she looks at me and says 
"You don't have kids yet. You don't have to deal with all this."

I was a little shocked actually. They were just being kids. My response had I not been working would've been this:
'I would do anything to have that "problem" of yours'

It really bothers me lately when people say things like that. Or when they say anybody want to take one of my kids? They must not realize how lucky they are.

One day I'll have kids. They just won't come from me.

This is me giving it one more chance. Then I'm calling it. 

Thursday, May 29, 2014

When can you declare yourself infertile?

I realized I haven't posted since I said I was going to the doctor. I did go to the obgyn to see what they could do for me. I really would just like to know if I can conceive or not. If I can't I'd like to move on from here and begin the grieving process. I've read that its an important stage to go through before you decide to begin the adoption process. ( which is my next step if we can't conceive )

This was a new place for me since I just moved to a different state. They did my initial exam that your supposed to get every year. Everything came back just fine. So next they told me that I have to come back in for blood work on the 3rd day of my cycle. I didn't last month because I was out of town, but I am pretty sure I'll do that this next time. I constantly fight with myself on whether or not I should go. I would like answers, but if they say something is wrong with my system then I doubt I would undergo the 'treatments' they suggest. I know I won't do IVF and I won't go on any medication. I believe if you can't get pregnant naturally then maybe you shouldn't have kids. I know a lot of people would disagree with that statement but that is my own opinion. On the other hand, it would be nice to get some answers and the knowledge as to why its been taking us so long to conceive. It has been a year and a half so far. I told Glenn I was giving up once we hit the two year mark. I'm not the type of person to try really hard for something for a long time without seeing results. I give up. Maybe I shouldn't, and maybe I should go through with the fertility treatments if that's what they recommend. But I won't do it.
Not when there are so many children out there who don't have parents that need them. My heart goes out to the kids in foster care. Maybe that is the reason why I can't have a child of my own. Maybe that is my purpose.
 I guess only time will tell.

I will definitely need a time to mourn if I can't have children. Its something I've been focused on for years now. To give that up would be the hardest decision.

I cried and pleaded with Glenn for a year and a half to even start trying to conceive. Now its another year and a half later and still no baby. I'm still not a mother.

I turn 30 this year and I joke that I'm going to have a midlife crisis. But if I still don't know what it feels like to be pregnant by then...  or feel the excitement of seeing a positive test result.....  by 30....

It'll just feel like everything else I've done so far.  Failing.

Friday, March 7, 2014

giving up, moving on

I have a doctor appointment on March 20th. I really thought this was my cycle, but its not. I'm finally going to get tested. I actually hope there is something wrong since we've been unable to conceive a child in over a year. I'm so discouraged and my heart is just breaking every month. Its not fair and I'm just lost.
I'm so ready to give up on trying to have kids. Apparently I'm not supposed to have any with Glenn. I never thought it would be this difficult. I feel like we're both pretty healthy people. I hope I get some answers from the doctor. If not then I don't know how I'll feel. I'm super angry and depressed. What am I going to do now?